Do you really know how to turn your man on? Do you know how to light his fire like no one has ever done before? If you answered yes to both of these questions, great job!
Please take a bow! However, I wasn’t exactly talking about that type of turn on. Ladies its time to get your dirty little minds out of the gutter because we are going to go on a completely different ride.
You’re going to take a peak into what turns a man on cerebrally. You’re going to learn to target your mans gray matter and appeal to his most basic and raw instincts. You’re about to learn to really light his fire.
Let me preface this blog post by saying that I do not claim to be an expert on relationships. Far from it. I am also not claiming to hold the key to a perfect relationship because there is no such thing. What I am claiming, is that when you do this one simple thing that takes about 5-10 seconds once or twice a week you will start to see a whole other man emerge. You will turn your man on and light his fire in ways he’s never experienced before and you BOTH will benefit!
The stresses of life, work, missed opportunities, dreams never realized, and host of other issues that can present themselves by simply going through life can and will take its toll on a man’s psyche i.e fire. That once raging fire that existed early in life can slowly dwindle to a small flickering flame or simply smolder in the deep depths of his soul almost unrecognizable. It is not uncommon for men to feel like they lost that flame, but they will not tell you that. Make no mistake about it, it is still there, whether he knows it or not. That barely visible inner fire can be reignited and turned into a raging ‘out of control’ (in a good way) 3 alarm fire and you are holding the accelerant! The latest self-help book or trendy seminar aimed at men is no match- no pun intended- to a fire ignited by a woman. Not even close.
You have heard it before. You want to make a man happy, feed him and give him sex. That may temporarily satisfy his belly and boner, but that really is the extent of it. We men are beasts that are actually more complex, even though at times, we do not act like it. Ok we do not act like it a lot, but nonetheless, we are a little more complex than needing only food and sex. Without going too far off into the weeds my brethren die by suicide 3.53x more often than women do and men have higher rates of use or dependence on illicit drugs and alcohol than women do. There is a host of other male vs female stats the favor woman that we won’t get into, but I bring this up to highlight that there is a real issue with men’s mental health (for lack of a better word) in today’s society. I am sure a lack of food and sex is not a major contributor. So why do I bring this up? Because there are many men out there whose fire has ‘burned out’. They are no longer turned on. I know this, because I hear it……a lot. They do not express it in those terms, but their words say everything. This a major contributor to the destructive behavior that I have outlined above and leads to an all-around apathy towards life. The good news is that all is not lost.
Ladies it is time to throw a giant log onto that flame, small as it may be, and turn your man on.
Here is what you should do once or twice a week to really turn your man on. Once or twice a week give your man words of encouragement or praise. These words should be heartfelt because if they are not he will instinctively feel and know it. It should look something like this:
- Thank you for being such a great father and husband. I am so proud of you. Thank you. I love you.
- You are going to have an awesome day today sweetheart because you are awesome and unstoppable.
- I believe in you.
- You are doing great things baby. I am so proud of all your hard work and I love how you support our family. You’re the best!
- Thank you for all that you do for us. You’re a great man sweetheart.
- You are going to conquer the world one day. I just feel it.
- I feel so safe with you. I cannot thank you enough for taking care of me.
- You are so hot/sexy/handsome and strong, I am the luckiest woman in the world.
- There’s nothing you can’t do, so go out and have a great day today! I love you so much.
You see the pattern there? You are appealing to man’s most basic need. A man likes, no LOVES, to feel like he is a damn MAN. RAWWRRRR!!! It’s what turns a man on. We want to protect our woman from invading armies and hordes of zombies. We want to go out on a successful hunt and bring back a moose to feed our family. We want to pound our chests like a gorilla and charge if another male threatens your security. In today’s society, these things are not an everyday occurrence. For the most part society is civilized, there is no invading Army – Red Dawn anyone?- and we can go to the grocery store to put food on the table so we can’t go out and behave like we want to. We’re stuck in a modern civilized society, with the DNA of a hunter gatherer.
When you make a man feel like a man, you embolden him to go out and do even greater things. A ‘turned on’ man becomes unstoppable. His sense of purpose will become more clear and his pursuit of greatness will elevate. You will forever be his Queen and he will feel like a King. When you can make your man feel like no one else can make him feel, that is priceless and worth its weight in gold.
Try it for a couple of months and witness the change in your man. The worst that can happen is that you end up with tons of affection, love, gifts, love notes, new home or homes, new car or cars, and a host of other positive unexpected behavior. You have been ‘warned’.